It seems like an oxymoron to use the term “good divorce.” Although going through the divorce process is stressful, it is possible to have a divorce where both you and your spouse feel the outcome is fair and that you can continue your relationship as co-parents in an amicable way.
Financial consultant. In almost all divorces, one spouse knows more about the financial situation than the other. A first step to a good divorce will be meeting with a neutral financial consultant who will educate you both about your current financial situation. Having knowledge of the assets early on is key to making a good financial decision.
The consultant can discuss alternative ways to divide assets and helps you consider tax implications you may face with one type of division or another. The consultant can help you both budget for the future in realistic ways.
When you each really understand the needs of the other one, hostility is likely to go out the window, and you can come to an amicable agreement that is in the best interest of both parties.
Family and child counselors. Family and child counselors can help you address issues your children face during their parents’ divorce. Children have questions. Some examples are:
Consulting with counselors during the divorce process helps you answer your children’s questions. It also helps you be better co-parents. After all, you will be co-parenting for the rest of your lives, no matter how old your children are at the time of the divorce. Your role shifts from spouses to “team mom and dad” and the children deserve nothing less than this type of unity for them as co-parents.
It makes it so much nicer for the children if both their parents can amicably attend their special events, like recitals, soccer games, graduations, weddings, the birth of the grandchildren, etc.
When you have a “good” divorce, you will find that you can act as a team for your children. You can relate to your ex-spouse in an amicable way. You will be happier with your final settlement agreement because you negotiated with respect for the other party.
For answers to your questions about how you can have a “good” divorce, call or contact us at Martinez Legal, P.C. Our motto is “lawyering with heart.” Our goal is to help you through the divorce process so you can emerge on the other side without hostility, ready to move on to your new life.